I need to vent, and this seems to be as good a place as any. After the death of Steve Jobs, the media has been full of his life. The things he has accomplished are inspiring, or certain, but there is something else being said that I take GREAT exception to.
This picture is floating around facebook lately:
Look at what it says. It lists the 'bad' things that happened to poor Steve. Born out of wedlock; okay, that can be construed as a bad thing. Dropped out of college; that might or might not be a bad thing, but I can see how it would be construed that way.
PUT UP FOR ADOPTION AT BIRTH???? Hey, people, that was NOT a bad thing! A young, unmarried woman placing her child up for adoption is one of the most wonderful loving and caring things she could have ever done. NOTHING is being said about the people who adopted him, gave him a chance to be a part of a family. Just "Oh, poor Steve, he was adopted at birth." That was probably the BEST thing that happened to him, not some horrific tragedy!
As an adoptive parent, I am dismayed at the message this sort of media sends to young girls who find themselves pregnant and unprepared for motherhood. Adoption is the loving option. Not only are you giving your baby a chance for a better life, you are giving a wonderful gift to a couple who, otherwise, would never be able to experience the joys and pains of parenthood.
34 years ago, a young woman gave my husband and I that gift. It wasn't a 'bad' thing for my daughter. She will tell you that it was the best thing or her.
In fairness, I know that what the picture is saying that you can make a difference, even if bad things have happened, and you have 'screwed up'. My objection is that the media has in effect 'demonized' adoption. I just want to say that ADOPTION IS A GOOD THING!

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